Dont make the mistake I made. I am in my mid 20s and have two little boys both under the age of 4. My husband pretty much said he was done and if I didnt have my tubes tied during the c section he would have his done. I signed the paper to have them tied for him. My heart was aching in that hospital bed as I agreed to it before the c section. I know my family isnt complete and have even checked on reversal but I would lose my husband if I did. He loves his two boys but just absolutly doesnt want another. He doesnt understand why I want another and doesnt know how much its killing me. I think about it everyday and honestly my marriage is slowly dying from the resentment that I feel. I feel that he doesnt care. His response when I try to talk it out, not really trying to get him to change his mind but to talk it out so he knows how I feel, is "if you want another one you'll have to have one with someone else." My heart is broken and I feel like a big part of me died with the tubal. Sex seems pointless. I felt the closest to my husband when we were trying to have a baby.

I needed very costly fertility treatments to concieve my Son who is now 4 i thought after that struggle i was done having children, it was very hard! i wanted one more but it would come and go as a feeling so we didnt act on it. just 2 months ago we began the treatments again in hopes of having one more, i finally felt the feeling strong enough to have one more i wanted to experience everything again one more time and i want to give Him a sibling!

I think most families struggle with this question, and the answer is completely different for each of them. As long as you can physically, financially and emotionally provide for your children you should have as many as you want. My decision to have more children is based entirely on how much energy I have to devote to child rearing. I have Fibromyalgia, plus I work FT and attend college PT. Right now, I only have enough energy for my 20 month old daughter. She's a handful! The idea of never giving birth and bonding with a new baby is hard for me, but I have decided to wait until my daughter is 4 to raise the question again. And if my husband and I both want another baby, we will try. But if we feel like we don't have the energy to devote to taking care of an infant, we'll remain a family of three. Take the advice of my friend, (a mother of a 19 year old, 17 year old, and 10 year old) - as a mother, you will always miss the wonderful sensation of having a new baby. You will always be a little sad to watch your children grow up and leave home. But there is a time to enjoy raising children and a time to enjoy the quiet home of an empty nest. Both are times to be celebrated.

I am the mom of 3 great girls, and I know for me, the "I'm done" pretty much hit as soon as the test for the 3rd came back positive! I have enjoyed watching her grow (youngest is 4). It's almost like something just shut off - I just knew I was done! So I've enjoyed her babyhood/todderhood as much as possible and now cherish time with my friend's newborns - and then give them back and get a full nights sleep! Please understand I say all of this lightheartedly and with love. I think you know when you're done - you just do! :)
~Lisa
Mom to Alexa, Maddy & Lily

My husband and I have a two year son who we love very much, but we are both pretty much done. I am 25 and my husband is 27, and as young as we are, we don't want anymore kids. I was 23 when my son was born, our pregnancy was unplanned and I just felt very overwhelmed with how much my life was going to change. So two years later I have a handle on the mommy thing but I don't have the patience for another child. Especially close in age. I am planning on going back to school finally for my bachelor's degree in teaching, by the time that I am finished, I wouldn't want such a large age gap between children. I didn't finish school before the motherhood and marriage, and having another baby now would prolong finishing my education. When my son was a newborn I looked forward to the day that he would sleep through the night, I walked around like a zombie the first 10 months of his life. Every mom goes through this, not just me. I worked a full time job his whole life, and I just felt exhausted every day. I remember being up at 2, 4, and 5 am, literally crying because I was exhausted and my son woudln't go to sleep. When I think about doing that all over again, I just shake my head. No one has mentioned the financial aspect of having a child, especially a large family. My husband and I both are the oldest of three children and we know what its like trying to support a family. At this point in our lives we would be doing things the hard way by having more than one child because we honestly can't afford it. I think that people should have as many children as they can afford, but even if I were a billionaire I wouldn't have more than two children just because of how much work it really is as a mom. I currently have an IUD which I had placed when my son was 8 months old. IUD's are good for five years and I'm all ready at year one. I'm still very young and have plenty of child bearing years ahead of me, but I am perfectly content with my family of 3.

I am also wondering if my family is complete My husband has a 22yr old son and a 14yr old daughter. I have a 10yr old daughter and we have a 4yr old daughter together. I am 30 yrs old and we have been together for 8yrs and we are also wondering if our family is complete. My pregnancies and not the best and for the first 4 months I am in the ER with (HG) hyperemesis gravidarum (really bad morning sickness. But at the end of it all I love my kids and sometimes wish for one more But then it hits me and iam not really sure because this world is so messed up we see everything that goes on in the news it make us wonder if its a good thing to bring a child into this world.

I am currently six months pregnant with baby #7, crazy huh? thats what i think sometimes... i never want my legacy to be over ... call me crazy but i love being pregnant,nursing ,holding a newborn and raising my children. The thought of it beingover is depressing.Its like saying,to me anyways ok the most exciting part of your life is now over!Although i have to admit this pregnancy has been the most tiresome esp with two boys going through puberty and already getting into a little trouble ugh!I mean i cant say its Over for me yet,until hubby gets fixed so we will see. but my theory is it doesnt have to be over ... at least till youget to #lol god bless

I thought I would have 3 by the time I was 30, and 4 all together. I now am 28, and just had my first 6 months ago after 5 and 1/2 years of trying. So unless I get pregnant with twins in the next 6 months or so, I dont think I will make that mark. Im hoping that I will connect with them a little better than my mom did with me, since she was 32 when she had me. Really I think as far as being "done", you will know. I think there is a point where your family just feels complete. We also have talked about adopting (especially since we had such a hard time getting pregnant). I think what I would do in your situation, is go ahead and adopt that child, then if you don't feel complete, then have another one. You will probably always miss actually having a baby, but there will be a point when you may miss your kids being babies, but wont feel the need for it anymore.

I always wanted to have 3 by the time I was 30, I managed to pull off 2, one boy and one girl: the best! I also have a stepson. So I'm 30, and I have my "3" but only 2 are my biological. Sometimes, I still want that 3rd one, somewhere, deep down, I just know that there's another baby, waiting to join us. However, I had my daughter while enrolled in college, and promised I would not do that again until I finished my degree. I still have another 3 years or so until I do, and I don't want that big of a gap between kids, my daughter would be 5 at least, my son 7 and my stepson 13. So dilemma, do what I don't want: have a baby while still in college...SO hard! or do what I don't want: wait til I finish school, and have a big gap. or do what I don't want: Stop! It's hard to choose when none of the options feel right! I grew up in a large family, but poor, and I desperately do not want my children to experience that. If we stick to what we have now, then will I feel forever incomplete? Or will I be glad, and proud that I did the right thing by the babies that I already have? So that I can be sure to afford their needs, and even, happily some wants! Plus I'm already 30, I definitely don't want to be much older and having another baby, the risks just get too high. Oh but to have another soft cuddly baby!

I had 2 boys with my first husband. I was on birth control and not ready to be a mom or get married to a man I was not sure was "the one". I didn't understand why it would happen to me. I was on birth control?????? Well, he wasn't the one but gave me 2 children. My second marriage brought me 3 already made children. I have 5 wonderful kids. Now they are 21, 23, 25, 29, 35. I also have 1 grand daughter and 2 more on the way.
That said, I always wanted to have another child my way. That did not happen. My husband had a vasectomy prior to me. We thought about a reversal but decided to leave things as it is.
Many years later I had to have a full hysterectomy. It wasn't my illness or surgery that concerned me, it was the fact that I would never carry another baby, deliver a baby, nurse a baby the way I wanted to. The way I thought was the way you are supposed to have a family. That is only a few years ago. Today, I realize that I was meant to have my boys when I did. Meet my husband of today that is "the one" and love his children as my own.
I am such a lucky woman and so is my family.